2021.12.02 07:17 emilymoon53 Sweet fuzzy potatoes
2021.12.02 07:17 ProfessionalImage8 Great opportunity for growth in a crazy job market, but seemingly toxic environment. Should I leave?
I’ll try my best not to make this long.
ETA: ended up being super long so will add a tl;dr.
Tl;dr: started new position under the guise of eventually replacing the managerial position, but the manager didn’t give me enough info to adequately do my job, and when I would ask for info/assistance so that I could fix something, he’d ignore me and jump in and fix it HIMSELF, making himself look good but also making me look bad. I’ve tried several tactics to remedy the issue but I don’t know what else to do. I feel unappreciated and unvalued and seeking advice on what to do.
I started working for a small company (less than 10 employees) earlier this year. The HR guy (who is also the payroll guy, and my boss/technical guy; we’ll call him “Tom”) reached out to me on a well known job SM site. He sent the JD, and though the salary was great, I told him I didn’t have some of the managerial experience he was looking for. Not to worry, he assured me, he’ll train me up. I would be replacing someone who recently left.
Ok cool. I figure I’ll at least do the interview and if it’s not a good fit we’ll figure it out then. The first “interview” was just Tom calling me to ask about my past experience and what my salary and comp expectations were. I advised. He also discussed the benefits of the job/company, all of which sounded great. He told me he’ll send me a self-assessment to complete and after review, be in touch.
I did my research on the company, and confirm they’re legit. I complete the assessment, honest about my strengths/weaknesses, and I think “there’s no way I’m gonna get this”. I had the technical experience but not the managerial experience they were looking for. But as a surprise they got back to me within the week wanting to interview. “Wow, great!” I think.
I ace this interview. The technical questions and behavioral questions, and a few days later I get the job. I’m ecstatic!
Looking back I notice so many red flags, but I didn’t want to see them, I’ll admit (was in a tough situation). First day I am to start, they didn’t send me all of the materials needed. So here I am at home (remote tech position) on my first day, twiddling my thumbs. I end up offering to use my personal equipment for the time being. No worries.
After a few days, the equipment all arrives and things start going smooth. I’m supposed to be replacing Tom/taking over his tech duties for a 3rd party client so he’s doing trainings and knowledge transfers. It should be noted that Tom was working for this client for years and had access to and knew things that most other people wouldn’t.
Shortly into the trainings (~2 weeks) he tells me he’s “busy” doing other projects and clients and that he won’t be available as often. If I need him I can reach out and he’ll get back to me, especially if it’s an emergency. “Ok” I think. It’s a bit odd but I figure that if I’m gonna be in a managerial position I’ve gotta know to think on my feet.
Inevitably over the course of his “busy” and “unavailable” schedule, I needed him or realized there were things I didn’t know I didn’t know about the client, so I’d schedule a meeting. First I’d message him (I figure if you’re busy thats less intrusive than a call, and I can explain everything and you can answer at your own leisure). He’d read my messages (there were read receipts) and not respond. Sometimes until the next day or the day after.
Ok. That was strange. But I give him the benefit of the doubt. He’s busy after all! So then I try calling for more urgent stuff. No answer. Now I’m left in these critical times to ask the client for certain info (which you should NEVER do) since I have no choice.
This went on for a while, the client getting frustrated and me getting frustrated as well. Not just because of Tom’s lack of response (which they didn’t know about) but because sometimes I’d ask for his assistance on things, and instead of responding to ME to enable ME to fix it (since I’m supposed to be replacing him) he would completely disregard me and jump in and fix the issue himself. The client is praising him (basically, thank goodness Tom is here!) meanwhile I’m left to look like chopped liver.
Now I’m getting upset. I’m feeling under appreciated. But because of the salary/benefits and growth opportunity, I stick it out and try another approach. Eventually I start scheduling meetings to block out his time. Sometimes he’d show up, but most times he’d either reschedule or, show up late because he was having a “smoke break”…you knew this meeting was at this time, yet you decided to take a smoke break right now? Ok…
So as a last ditch effort, I try to express my frustration, without telling him I’m frustrated. Just pointing out how I don’t feel needed here because I haven’t been trained up enough yet, and 6 months is fast approaching and I’m still at a huge knowledge deficit. At this point Tom tells me his projects are wrapping up and he will be available again shortly so this is all get cleared up. Excellent.
So a week or two later, Tom makes good on his promise and we’re doing more knowledge transfers. I’m feeling good again, and feeling like maybe I was just being dramatic before. But shortly into it, AGAIN, he starts to be “busy”, starts ignoring my messages and jumping in to fix things on my behalf. Indirectly snubbing me and making me look bad.
Vacation season comes up and everyone goes on respective vacations. Because we are the only ones with our skill we can’t be out at the same time. So there’s a decent chunk of time we can’t do knowledge transfers because one of us are out. Issue is now we’re super close to the 6 month deadline, and the amount of “knowledge transfer” done is nowhere NEAR enough for me to feel confident to do things myself. I’d still need to reach out to him. And he’d likely ignore me and fix things on my behalf, making me (and undoubtedly the client) question my whole existence there in the first place.
The final straw for me came recently, when again, there was an issue and I reached out to him because I needed some info from him. Once again, I see he read my message, but then proceeds to jump into the group chat with the client and play Captain Save the Day! Making me look incompetent in the meantime. And the icing on the cake was, the client’s IT manager (who didn’t say anything the whole exchange) then jumps in and praises Tom about how great he is, and oh how humble. It was like a princess fawning over her knight in shining armor. Completely unnecessary and added nothing to the conversation, but made me feel a hell of a lot worse.
The client over the course of me being here has also been a bit rude. When Tom was unavailable, I was to fill in for him in preparation for me taking over for him. So there would be times when they would ask questions about projects he was working on. Some of which I weren’t fully privy to, and I’d try to answer as politically as possible and reach out to Tom on the back end, but the client would then disregard my email and specifically @ Tom. Or the client would make a vague request, and I’d ask for more info so I could action it, and they just wouldn’t respond. This also happened recently; client make a vague request, I ask for clarity, no response. Now that Tom’s back from one of his many hiatuses, the client revives the thread (RESPONDING TO MY EMAIL WHERE I ASKED FOR CLARITY) and then proceeds to ask Tom for updates.
All of this and I still haven’t advised on everything/aired out all of my grievances. I’m at the end of my rope here. But it’s been such a short time, I almost don’t want to give up. I’ve never been in a managerial position and I felt the growth opportunity would be amazing, and I don’t want to give up on myself. But I sincerely don’t know what to do, I’ve NEVER been in this situation and it feels so toxic I almost don’t believe it! I feel like I must be misinterpreting something or going crazy. I feel unappreciated and unneeded and I take great pride in my work and my ability. So to feel this way is like hell.
As I write this, it seems glaringly obvious what I have to do, but I just had to vent, and also see if maybe anyone had any ideas that I haven’t explored yet?
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2021.12.02 07:17 KrishangT Wait for the twist
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2021.12.02 07:17 dfinny Game I already downloaded is redos loading and is taking over an hour?
I have been playing on eclipse for a few days now. This morning I went to play the game I’ve been playing but it shows downloading and had been downloading for over an hour now? How do I fix this?
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2021.12.02 07:17 FrankLabounty Is "Sehnsucht nach Unendlichkeit" the correct German translation for "Nostalgia for Infinity"?
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What would be the very best translation for the english phrase?
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2021.12.02 07:17 ShemsoMater Rad na ugovor za americku firmu
Traže me da potpišem Form W-8 BEN ovaj dokument i nije mi jasno dal netko zna gdje kome i kolko poreza plaćam. Ako je to netko već prošao i da mi pomogne bio bih vrlo zahvalan.
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